THIS is what good fiction is made of right here! Some things start as a lie. Some things morph into a lie. Some things were never a lie at all. BUT, the bottom line is it is usually (almost always) more complicated than that.
Relationships aren’t simple — no matter what the dynamic, circumstances, priorities, or goals are. There’s something that needs work. Something that requires attention. Something that requires more of you than you (maybe) willing to give. Something that’s so easy it seems wrong. There will be tough times. There will be times of utter satisfaction. There will be times when one (or both of you) hates the other.
The bottom line is this: Do you want to be “here”?